I was up late last night. My computer guy Ken was here for a while trying to de-frag my laptop (whatever that means) . Shey went to bed hours after I'd wanted her to, so I was forced to have my me time after Ken left.
Yesterday was a longer day than I'd wanted it to be and I really wasn't feeling inspired to blog about anything other than my gratitude for where I find myself right now.
It's amazing to me that once you find yourself in a loving, committed relationship; opportunities and prospects for other relationships abound. I mean, where were all these potentials when I was single and willing?
Who knows? Who cares?
My boyfriend is perfect (if you ask me) and I couldn't want anyone else.
Looking back though; I've traveled one heck of a path to get to him.
I broke up with Paul in May '07. Immediately; two of my coworkers tried to get on. I wasn't having it (you don't poo where you eat).
Working in Downtown Detroit; there was no shortage of qualified men. Still; I was uninterested. I was stuck on other boys.
When it was all said and done; I got back with Shey's dad for a time until I felt I had done all I could do and bounced for good.
Dating was tough. I met men abroad. At the time; I was a Process Server so I met men ALL the time but the prospects were less than flattering.
So, I turned to the internet. I'd had a lot of success in the past with internet dating and figured, "what's the harm? From E Harmony to Match; I struck out. I even resorted to Craigslist. I met a TON of dudes but it ended up being the good ole stand-by plenty of fish that garnered my boo.
True story; when people ask me how I met my man; I tell them 'Mutual friends'. But for real, for real; I met him on POF.
During our first 'real' phone convo' he said to me "Listen; I'm not dating because I like it or because I like being surrounded by women. I'm dating because it's necessary to find a woman who wants to get married and have children with me. If that's not something you're looking for; I suggest that we part ways now."
Talk about straight forward.
I told him then that that was EXACTLY what I was looking for.
We've been together ever since.
Honesty REALLY is the best policy.